An Open Letter to My Very Favorite Sex Advice Columnist, Dan Savage

Dear Dan,
You seemed just a little miffed in this week’s column . Well, you have ample right to be pissed at the Bushies and all the anti-gay bigots out there, but you seem to be equally pissed at your heterosexual readers. Well, I’m sorry if breeders write in to you with their boring breeder problems, but please take a deep breath and try to understand.

Yes, being gay in America sucks. But your heterosexual readers are not your enemies. Most of them love you not just because you give great advice, but because you give those people just one more fucking REASON to fight for gay rights. You put an adorable, intelligent, witty, sexy, badass face on a community that some people in this country would otherwise have no access to, and no reason to understand and support.

I know you’ve changed people’s minds about homosexuality. I know people who have come to a deeper understanding of human sexuality and what it means to be gay because of your column and your books. After reading The Kid one of my close friends changed her mind about her former resistance to the idea of gay couples adopting babies. My wonderful, loving boyfriend has a better appreciation for his gay brothers and sisters than he did when he first started dating me, and this is largely because of the fact that I’ve introduced him to your column.

Your heterosexual readers are your ALLIES, Dan. You have allies, and you have a tremendous impact. You say things, and people start saying them. Just look at how “santorum” caught on. You are in the position to really do something about gay rights in this country, because you have a huge group of people waiting for you to tell them what the fuck to do.

So do what you do best, Dan. Give straight America some advice. Take that anger and put it where it matters. Give your readers some of your passion, and give us a mission. We will follow you.

xoxo,
Your Biggest Fan, Teresa